Anywho.... Snappy, baby boogie and I see them just about every weekend. I chat & giggle with their mom like an old girlfriend and Snappy and their step-father get on like two old college chums. Its a beautiful and amazing relationship to me. Their step-father barely speaks a lick of english but is always telling us how much he loves us and that we are ALL family. The other weekend he declared how lucky the boys were to have four parents. Can you imagine that? Not a drop of weird energy hanging with Snappy's children's mother, her husband and their family. Its always LOVE. We mix drinks, make tons of food and let the kids run wild, while laughing and playing dominos all night..
Now, if you follow me on Tw.itter, then you know I was
Mind you -- Snappy and I were not a part of that conversation. Later on, after plans had been set, my SIL remembers that Snappy and I had planned to throw a BBQ this same weekend. So, she calls Snappy fills him in and suggests we just combine the parties. Snappy has some reservations.. "Do you think folks will act weird about me bringing out a birthday cake?" SIL says No. Why would they? Snappy is still unsure. His gut was telling him that his cousins would act weird about it. SIL insists that it wouldn't be weird. We're all family! ::side eye:: Snappy takes her word and discusses the 'new' plan with the step-kids mom and her husband.
Now, not only would we put in the $50 that everyone agreed on.. BUT, we'd bring additional ribs, chicken, hot dogs, hamburgers, drinks AND the other family was going to make spanish rice & beans, a pork shoulder, cheesecake & cupcakes and a smorgasbord of other yummy @ss latin treats! *drool*
Fast forward to yesterday. SIL calls Snappy and says "They" aren't feeling combining parties and think we should do our own thing on Sunday and they'll continue to do their BBQ on Saturday. S'cuse me? What's the problem? Snappy is annoyed that he didn't listen to his gut on the matter, because now he has to go back to the kids and their mom with more changed plans and I'm PISSED!
What kind of bullshyt is that? Why would they have a problem with us ALL pooling our resources and having one big party? Its not like everyone doesn't know each other. *grrrrrr* SIL says "Well, 'they' didn't know who was coming and....." Why didn't they ask! Come on SIL, you KNOW your nephews family and so do they! Not to mention, why didn't you A) advocate for this to happen since you suggested it or B) tell those that had concerns about how it would work out, to call Snappy? Duh!
I'm livid at this point. This is supposed to be Snappy's FAMILY acting like this. Blood Relatives. And that my blogger family is why niggers can't get ahead. They don't want to do things together and pool their resources. Its all about "I don't know them.. who is dat? Nah son.. you betta get yours because I gots to get mine" mentality.
The thing that upset me the most -- the thing that really burned me up.. Snappy was hurt behind this. He couldn't understand how his sons family embraces everyone and his own blood can't see beyond their selfishness to do the same. Maybe its a cultural thing #kanyeshrug But, ignorant colored folks that can't see enough to get out of their own way piss me off! Why the separation? Snappy was REALLY pissed when the SIL said "Well, I wasn't contributing money anyway, so it was a win, win for me, two parties in one weekend".
Sad. Just sad.
So, the end result is, we plan to do nothing at all. We're going to take the kids to the go-carts and miniature golf place and leave the in-laws to their own devices. Did I want to be spiteful and still show up with a cake
Our absence will speak volumes-- and that's enough for me.
Has YOUR extended family or in-laws ever burned you up this way?
5 comments:
I think families can be like that PERIOD. Black, white, whatever. There are plenty of people who don't talk to their relatives for a myriad of reasons. I ignore most of my family not just b/c they're so big but they're just frustrating in a myriad of ways. Some people just like to be messy. I'm glad you're skipping out on the cookout, though. They still want you to contribute? Yeah.right. gosomewhere.com/im-not-boo-boo-the-fool
My in-law family is full of foolish azz people and we try to engage with them as little as possible. Hubby loves my big, crazy, obnoxious extended family and they have embraced him as "one of us". I have cousins who treat him better than his own siblings. *smh* I hope that ya'll have a great day with the teenager and family. Go karts sound fun!
@Jameil - messy! so messy! *brushing my Wendy Williams teeth* Can you BELIEVE they still asked if we were going to contribute?? BYE!! lol
@MrsTDJ- I am certainly going to be engaging less, hmph..
Girl family!!! Don't get me started mine is in a sad, sad state and I keep to myself...but the picture you attached to the post spoke volumes it's the first thing I saw and I died! LOLOLOLOL!
@Puddin- I love that pic! lol
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